Getting motivated

Autonomy and a clear sense of purpose is often the key to self-motivation. Here’s a few tips for fostering autonomy at work and in the home. Sally looked glum as she came into therapy; a surprise to me as she had recently got a new job and was very motivated to add value to her…

What you need to know about positivity

What you need to know about Positivity? Key ideas from the book “Positivity” by Barbara Fredrickson, PhD. Dr. Barbara Fredrickson is a key figure in the happiness world.  She is a scientist who has made influential discoveries about the role of positive emotion in our lives. What is Positivity? Fredrickson uses the word positivity to…

When someone you care about is depressed

When someone you care about (e.g., friend or family member) is suffering from depression it can be difficult to know what to do and how to interact with them.  The following points are guidelines to help point you in the right direction. Get an understanding of depression yourself – learn about what depression is and…

Living in the moment

“I feel like my mind is not my own” Debbie told me, “I keep imagining that my boss will criticise my latest project and my performance review is next week.”  Frustrated, she looked at me.  “Can you help?” Mindfulness is a psychological method for bringing yourself into the present moment borrowed from Eastern meditation methds. …

Do you become jealous after using facebook?

Mark, a 20-something client, came to see me recently because he couldn’t stop thinking about his ex-girlfriend. After few sessions of therapy he revealed his habit of jumping on his computer and looking at his ex’s Facebook page after a night out. Not surprisingly this left him feeling hurt and sad, thinking that his ex-girlfriend…

Self compassion tips

Sally (45) is the owner of a highly successful business, has a growing family and is very involved in her community. Yet repeatedly, she verbally beats herself up. When Sally perceives she has done something wrong the verbal abuse starts. This sets off a cascade of self-critical thoughts, which then leads her to feel terrible…

The power of forgiveness

They say that revenge is sweet – but then so is chocolate cake, and that isn’t always good for you. Learn how forgiveness can make you happier and healthier. BY Mary Grogan Finally, she snapped, and she ran her key along the side of his precious Audi, admitted Jodi* during our psychology session as she…

Building resilience

These days we hear a lot about resilience and how important it is.  Here is a summary of the key facts. What is resilience? In essence, resilience is the ability to keep going after experiencing a setback or series of problems.  It is recovering readily to still hold optimism about the future.  It has been…

Learning to accept

Radical Acceptance: How do you respond when reality bites? A 35 year old single woman at a baby shower. A 28 year old banker living at home dreaming of financial independence.  Another woman, 53, unable to go tramping in the South Island because of chronic back pain. What do all of these situations have in…

Ten steps to creativity

10 steps to creativity Suffering from brain freeze and need a little inspiration? 
Follow these simple steps to get your creative juices flowing again. 1. GO CROSS-EYED (ALMOST!) The academic journal Brain and Cognition described a study in which participants were required to think of alternate uses for everyday objects. Half the subjects were instructed…